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Yes, it's that time
once again: The day we feature your dating and relationship
questions. Although we would like to answer each one personally and
with as much detail as possible, the overwhelming amount of
inquiries forces us to highlight those that are most interesting to
AskMen.com readers; your e-mail may even be answered in the process.
What if a woman I’m dating sees me out with ANOTHER woman I’m
dating?
Jealousy is an interesting emotion. Some believe that it's the most
POWERFUL emotion.
Generally speaking, if a woman knows that you're seeing other
women, it will make you more attractive.
But you must be careful.
Jealousy can make people crazy... and it can lead otherwise normal
people to do all kinds of insane things. If you make the wrong
person jealous, they can turn into a stalker.
That said, my perspective is that you need to live your life and not
worry about what others think of you.
This trait will lead to women finding you more attractive.
If you're always worrying about whether a woman will be upset
because she sees you out with another woman, then you'll be acting
like a Wussy all night because you're scared.
On the other hand, if you could care less what others think of you,
then it will project into all other areas of your behavior, and will
lead to other good things.
How should a guy handle holidays with a
girl he likes without turning into a Wussy?
So, here's the problem: If you meet a girl that you really
like, at some point early on in the relationship, some type of
holiday or occasion is going to turn up...
Valentine's Day, New Year's Eve, her birthday... something.
And you don't want to look like a TOTAL jackass by doing nothing --
I get it.
Here's just a little bit of advice: You can make the occasion
FANTASTIC without being a WUSSY.
You can do something that will blow her mind without coming across
as a needy, clingy, girly-man who is trying to impress a woman
because he doesn't feel worthy.
An example of what most guys do:
Call her up, tell her that you really like her, ask her where her
favorite restaurant is because you want to take her there for her
birthday, ask her what else she’d like to do, and then keep asking
after she says, "I don't care what we do, I just want to have
fun," a hundred more times.
An example of what to do instead:
Call her and say, "Hey, put on something cute tomorrow night,
and be ready at 8... I'm going to pick you up.” If she asks what
you're doing, just say, "Be ready, no questions.” Pick her
up, take her to dinner, choose the food, and then bring her home and
put a candle on a cupcake and sing her happy birthday. No asking her
what she wants, no telling her where you're going, and no seeking
her approval.
Get the difference? If not, read it again.
There's a way to do everything without coming off WUSSIFIED.
What are some tips you have for using
your ideas to meet women online?
OK, if you're going
to do the online thing, you must keep a few things in mind:
1- There are literally tens of millions of people who are
using the internet for dating. It's the BIG THING right now.
2- Women who join dating sites get TONS of replies from men.
3- If you want to be successful in the online space, you need
to remember that you're really in a big numbers game.
4- Writing a great profile is one way to separate yourself
from the crowd, and turn the entire game around.
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